Fuck you. Men are tired of male bashing. Most men are good, decent men looking out for their family. The problem with this ad campaign is it paints a broad stroke that alll men are rapists and evil. Go fuck yourselves simps and manginas . A razor company and you cucks will not tell me how to raise my son.
I’ve never seen that gif… As a gif…
lots of people who have executive function difficulties worry about whether they’re procrastinating on a task out of laziness/simply wanting to be a jerk or mental struggles. this checklist might help you figure out which it is at any given time! (hint: it’s almost never laziness or being a jerk.) (obligatory disclaimer: this is just what works for me! something different might work better for you.)
1) do I honestly intend to start the task despite my lack of success?
2) am I fed, watered, well-rested, medicated properly, etc?
3) does the idea of starting the task make me feel scared or anxious?
4) do I know how to start the task?
5) do I have everything I need to start the task?
6) why am i having a hard time switching from my current task to this new task?
7) have I already procrastinated so badly that I now cannot finish the task in time?
reality check: having part of a thing done is almost always better than none of a thing done. if I can get an extension, having part of it done will help me keep from stalling out until the extension deadline. i’ll feel better if I at least try to finish it.
reality check: if i’m having fun doing what I’m doing, I can keep doing it, but I should probably set a timer & ask someone to check on me to make sure I start doing the task later today.
8) I’ve completed the checklist and still don’t know what’s wrong!
hope this helps some of you! YOU’RE DOING GREAT SWEETIE DON’T GIVE UP ON YOU
Ooh, this is a really lovely (and kind-hearted) guide for ADHD, executive dysfunction issues, or just plain ol’ brain fog! Should help with misplaced guilt, too.
What’s the next step if you can’t tear yourself away from tumblr for long enough to look at or add a single item to a to do list, much less make a complete list of steps?
Also, often making a complete list of steps bogs me down in and of itself. If I even succeed, which is rare, then the length of the list is intimidating.
Switching tasks at all can be really, really hard for me. This is especially true if I’m doing something that requires very low concentration, like tumblr, and what I’d like to do is read a non-fiction book. I very much want to read the book, because I am curious and like to learn things. But it’s hard to start and it’s hard to stick with it. Very demoralizing.
This is a struggle for me as well. I have a tendency to make a list for a project and then go “that counts as work on the project, time for a break” or to spend way too much time hypothesizing additional things I might potentially need to add to the list - planning can be a form of procrastination for me.
One thing that often works for me if I’m intimidated by Too Much List is to just only think about the One Next Step. Maybe (for example) I can’t think all the way through the steps to make dinner, but I can put a pot of water on to boil, and that’s enough to get started. (This isn’t a great example but it’s what I’ve got at the moment, I can try to come up with another if it’d help)
As far as struggling to tear yourself away goes - I’ve had some success with apps or browser add-ons to limit my Tumblr time (I use Forest and Stay Focused for Android), but not a ton. The only thing I’ve got figured out has been to limit the number of blogs I follow to only the ones I really enjoy and just let myself scroll until I run out of new stuff. When I’m “done with tumblr” I find it way easier to start whatever I’m putting off (I usually scroll through a few times a day).
For stuff that you want to do but find yourself putting off - can you talk yourself into the idea of doing it in snatches? I put off reading or gaming because I want to dedicate a couple hours at once, and I seldom have that to spend. Otherwise, just making it as convenient as possible helps me a lot - keep the book within reach of where I know I’ll be hanging out, for example.
Hope this is helpful!
not my monkey but i have done as peter suggests – do things in small bytes. same with “just one step”. i’m currently editing my stupid fuck novel… by like, two pages at a time.
“There is only one kind of shock worse than the totally unexpected: the expected for which one has refused to prepare.”
— Mary Renault, from her novel, The Charioteer
OK some news
My first day of my new job started, and I am officially part of the government’s civil service as a contract employee (Assistant Principal Secretary for those who care) hence my Corporate Appearance up top and a freaking room to myself
I’m a boss for the first time in my life
It’s fucking surreal
I’M NOT USED TO ALL THESE PEOPLE (ESPECIALLY THOSE OLDER THAN ME) TREATING ME WITH SO MUCH RESPECT???? I’M LOW KEY UNCOMFORTABLE
I literally have officers and a clerk reporting to me. I’m. I just. I’M. OVERWHELMED.
AND I TECHNICALLY REPORT DIRECTLY TO THE COMMISSIONER AND CHAIRMAN SO LIKE LOL NO PRESSURE
It is very difficult to maintain a cool image when I’m constantly screaming inside
You live in a world where knowledge can literally be bought with money. Rumor has it that the biggest secret in the universe is going around for a low price, but it’s not easy to get.
This piece by Harebrained Schemes art director Mike McCain is so gorgeous and I love it and if you want a print of it, you can buy it here.
100% of proceeds go to the ACLU.
Anyway here is my sweet and cute son who is a skittish gentle giant who is also MAD SKILLED AT HUNTING
He’s gotten so huge!!
HE’S LIKE 3.3 KG OR ABOUT 6 LBS NOW????? I AM SHOOKETH
(and he’s still a babby at about 7 months)
Anyway here is my sweet and cute son who is a skittish gentle giant who is also MAD SKILLED AT HUNTING
